Let’s Talk About Judgement.

I have just a handful of strong opinions, and this is one of them - judgement is natural but it’s not your responsibility.

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As humans we can’t help but judge, it’s hardwired into our DNA as a means of self preservation, but if you find yourself regularly judging others for their choices or where they are in their journey then you’re acting from your ego & here’s why…

We are all part of the whole (collective consciousness) living contrasting experiences, by design, so that the whole (singular conscious from which we originate) can experience all that is and come into full awareness. 

So connection over the judgment of others isn’t true connection, confidence born from judgement of others is not real confidence, and happiness built on the judgement of others is 👏🏾not 👏🏾real 👏🏾happiness. 

We all experience different seasons in life, and no matter what role we’re currently cast in, it serves the ecosystem of human consciousness and the grand “experiment” through which we are not meant to have the same exact experiences or beliefs as one another, as that contradicts the point of gaining understanding from all perspectives and possibilities. 

We are meant to be faced with the challenges of difference in belief and opinion, and hopefully overcome them, finding our way into deeper knowledge, compassion, community, and back into union within ourselves and our divine nature. 

Plus the fact is, npbody knows everything, nor is anyone meant to.

It’s also impossible to know all there is to know about another’s experiences or why they are who they are from both a physical and energetic standpoint. So to form judgement outside of the sake of self preservation is not conducive to anything aside from inflating oneself and masking insecurity. 

This is not to say that objective observation and intuitive insight makes one insecure, as that can often be a saving grace and indication of what’s aligned with us. 

But if you find yourself thinking from a critical standpoint of how much “better” you can do something or how “silly” or “foolish” you find others to be without considering your differences in a multitude of factors such as background, privilege, why it matters to you, and whether you’ve taken the time to understand their reasoning rather than immediately deducing them as “less than” - then you are acting from a wounded space... and that’s were you should redirect your focus.

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It behooves us all to focus on our own inner work, practice patience, and seek to understand - starting from within. 

That doesn’t mean you have to put up with people as they learn their lessons, but it is to say that focusing on yourself and where you can improve is much more productive than focusing on what you perceive as another person’s shortcomings. 

You never know the greater purpose of another persons experience, the lessons they will learn through it, the catalyst for change it may bring, what chapter they’re in, or where this version or vision of them could take them in the future. 

Our journey doesn’t end here, and perfection is nothing but an illusion. It’s in releasing the wounded ego that we give ourselves the freedom to go further than any amount of judgement, pomp, or misplaced pride could ever possibly take us. 

You don’t have to agree with other people’s choices, or be happy with/for them, but you can choose - choose to either stand for something, lend a helping hand, or simply mind your own business.

And it would also be wise to remember, that the very human experience you find yourself looking down on today, could find its way to you or someone you love tomorrow - so instead of judging others choose empathy, understanding, and compassion - that’s the foundation upon which real and lasting connections, confidence, and happiness can be built. 

So worry about yourself and learn how to embody unconditional love - knowing that YOU ALSO have a lot left to gain, a lot left to grow, and a long ways left to go. 

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***I originally wrote and posted this to my Instagram back in 2024, but since I've made so many updates, I felt it deserved a permanent home for its timeless relevance.***