Becoming

A lot of us look at achieving our dreams and goals as something far off in the future... As something that’s going to require us to become someone else in order to reach them. And we consciously, or otherwise, delay them for when we’re “good enough,” “smart enough,” “strong enough,” etc., instead of looking at what we can do now to inch closer. We end up stuck in judgment and inadequacy, never moving toward what we want for ourselves; and because of that, we end up affirming

This particular title isn’t originally mine - it belongs to a book by Seth Godin that was gifted to me by my father the year I finally graduated from junior college after what felt like a lifetime of setbacks, detours, pain, and rebuilding. And it's a book that's stayed with me, not because of who gave it to me, but because of what it represents: the truth that life doesn't wait for perfect timing, ideal circumstances, universal approval, or complete confidence before asking

⋆⋆ In this post, I share parts of my story that include trauma, abuse, and mental health struggles. If these themes feel tender for you right now, I invite you to read with support or return when it feels right. ⋆⋆ Five Years Ago I Started Over. I was at the peak of my first major awakening when the life I had built - the one I thought I was supposed to want - collapsed under the weight of my truth. I was raised in an evangelical household, and it was everything you’d expect

I’m writing this because I spent a long time not being myself. Not because I didn’t want to be - but because I learned, very early on, that being myself wasn’t always safe, convenient, or rewarded. I learned how to read rooms, how to adapt, how to carry myself in a way that made others comfortable, and how to hold my breath and just keep going. I come from a lineage of strength and resilience - where survival, dignity, and courage were not abstract ideas in my family, but liv

Trusting the process and timing of things.